I think that women do this to their own daughters by not choosing men well. Somehow, women think that if their feelings are ok with the match, then that will cause the man to be a good husband and father. They trust their intuitions, and resent having to do a careful evaluation. I knew one woman who told me that it is impossible to tell if a man will be a good husband and father — you just have to pick one you like and hope for the best. I think your article is true in some respects. I do not mean to preach but the church and I admit I have to repent about judging the world when I know I sin.
Preaching morals to the world will never save them nor preaching to unbelievers who have hook-up sex etc, feminists, or those who really do not follow Christ but think they do do, corporations, governments change anything.
We the church are the gatekeepers of evil and morals not the government, media, corporations etc. Many Pastors need to feed the flock and quit entertaining us with witchcraft meaning New Age and other forms, false doctrine etc and the church needs to stop wanting Pastors like that. We cannot condemn the world because what did the church do when Hilter, Mao, Stalin were in power?
Did the church do anything or were we silent? What was and is the church doing to stop Darwinism in ours schools, eugenics abortions , and witchcraft and why is it still going on?
How can we condemn the world when some of us Christians let our children read Harry Potter books thinking it is harmless and not seeing the danger of kids now fascinated by witchcraft. How can we condemn them when some of Christians went to see the Batman movie? We wonder how horrible the event which is true it was horrible.
I ask you though church why is seeing the Batman film not horrible and why is it not ironic that violence happened at a violent film? Celine, Where do you find any evidence that children watching Harry Potter has gotten them involved in witchcraft?
Similarly, where have you found that watching movies from the Batman reboot trilogy leads to violent youth? Yes, I am quite aware of the infamous James Holmes, but he was already unhinged. As of now, who knows what caused him to fall into such a deranged state? I think movies with gratuitous violence and gore, however, are quite a bit different in the way they influence people.
I think those go quite a long way in desensitizing people to things which ought to cause a reaction of shock and revulsion rather than approval. I know I definitely fell victim to it. As Christians, all we can do is continue to preach the true gospel and nurture those who are willing to listen. There really are many situations where, short of sharing the gospel, encouraging others to abide in Christ, and caring for the broken and the poor, there is little else we can do.
On another note, how do you go about preventing certain churches from preaching false doctrine? The only thing I can think of, again, is preaching the true gospel in response and encouraging all who profess Christ to read the Bible for themselves to see if it aligns with what their leaders are preaching.
Ultimately, I think those who truly want Christ will believe the true gospel, and not the false ones. Sex, Marriage, and Exchange of Value. I think prostitution and free hook ups are not only about sex. I think it is about people who are unable and handicap to build and keep healthy relationships, and instead of working and learn how to build and have it, they go the easy way.
On the side of men, the thirst they have to be respected and recognized as leaders is one of the reasons they go for it. They buy someone and get to be respected for a moment. Is that a relationship? I enjoy providing her with books, debates and lectures to learn about the things that I care about. I enjoy protecting her from lies and labor by building up her knowledge and character and performing acts of service for her.
I enjoy leading her — through study and persuasion — to grow in her understanding of moral, theological and apologetic issues. Do you see husband-wife relationship as similar to a teacher-student relationship? Perhaps I am misunderstanding, but I get the sense that you view a wife as, ideally, intellectually subservient to a husband. I agree that it can be pleasing for a wife to accept the goals of her husband, but it is equally important for a husband to accept the goals of his wife.
He asked her to go and do her J. So who knows more about tax law? But who is doing the leading? Your view is egalitarian and mine is complementarian. I think that husbands and wives and men and women who are courting have different roles.
No roles are better or worse, but they are distinct roles. I think my view fits with the Bible better. I know a lady who is quite high up in her work — a director who manages about 50 people.
She works in an interesting area in which she sees the effects of social policies on individual lives. I picked out a book for her to read on policy related to her area of expertise, because I saw that this book was getting a lot of attention. I will know less than she does, but I am leading her because I think that it will help her to have an influence.
Women have to be subordinate — by nature, as soon as there are children, a women requires support from a husband or she will receive it from the public or government.
Otherwise, she will be in difficulty. One person can not raise a child alone without assistance. The woman should be married to a man and subordinate to him. That is how is has been done for centuries. The patriarchal system is meant to protect women and children. For a woman to have a child and not be married is a embarrassment and has been for centuries despite what is portrayed in the western society which is morally depraved.
The man should take care of that woman and the children — independently — so that they do not become a burden. The husband wants a faithful and subordinate wife so he can do what he is suppose to do. Two people cannot drive a car at the same time — it is impossible. If a women will not remain faithful and subordinate to the man — she wil divorce her husband in a no-fault divorce for frivolous reasons ie sending her husband away.
Consider the high divorce rate initiated by women. Now the woman without realizing it — has become a venal strumphet. Quite often, her and the children and becomes a burden to the government, family, and destroys the father of her children brilliant destruction strategy that is time tested and well proven — remember the Garden of Eden?
So what of us women who are chaste, unmarried, and do not think they will find husbands? My dating history is different from the pattern you describe: I gave men my attention, affection, and heart, but not my body. That hurt, a LOT. I was thirty before I started dating nice men who appreciate my love and are willing to wait for the physical part. They were around, somewhere, after all; did you never encounter any of them at all, anywhere? Were you simply not paying them any attention, because they other kind of men that you instead were dating were much more charismatic?
In other words, were they just off your radar? Or did you physically relocate to a different place in your thirties, and find actual different men around, who were more marriage-minded than the ones you met in the place you were living in during your twenties?
And of course, another factor can be, what kind of churches or other environments you met the young men you dated in your twenties, versus those you met in your thirties….
Given what you said — you got emotionally attached before qualifying them — so whose is at fault? A attractive chaste woman is greatly desired and she will get far more offers for marriage than a non-chaste woman of equal attractiveness. Btw, a educated wife is nice it is not necessary. Quite often it gets in the way ie feminized and causes discourse unless the values and culture are remarkably similar and held in high regard.
Not for twenty-year-old men in Massachusetts at a super-liberal college. No one up here gets married before thirty. Well, that and the age of the men present. I do respect you very much and I know that you are very conservative and that conservative men should be attracted to you. I think I know why you are struggling with men.. I have a friend New York City and he tells me horror stories about what that city is like.
Even if people do marry, there is rarely any planning and decisiveness. Will your male blog-readers throw the same criticisms to your male friend in NYC, or is it just women who are being thrown under the bus?
To hell with that. I would also wonder how your male responders think that their commentary would be taken by a chaste teenage or twenty-something lady whose own experience is directly at odds with their claims.
Bridget , Strictly out of curiosity, why have chosen to remain chaste and what was your upbringing? In addition, what are your dating guide lines? Are they in writing? My opinion on chaste women is quite different. Promiscuous women dont get marriage offers — they are simply seen by men to satisfy a glandular urge. I doubt they were younger because generally men date younger women or women very close to their own age.
Of course, its possible that they were always nice men, but just not interested in marriage when they were younger. How would you know whether they were chaste or not? IMO there will always be a market for prostitution, even if we do live in a one night stand culture. There will be men who find it difficult to get sex for free- men who are disabled, socially inept or unattractive or even disfigured. There are also men who could get sex for free if they wanted but may want to avoid the complications and difficulties that may come with one night stands or relationships.
Because in the era of hookup sex, women choose partners based on looks and organ size, nothing else matters. I completely disagree that men are forced to go to prostitutes or promiscuous women. They indulge because they drawn away by their own lust, plain and simple, feminism or not. And the women also.
Some are looking for love, and some just want the sex. I do think though that the society now is more accepting of open sexual immorality and it is more prevalent. Tim, a divorced year-old from Mississauga who hasn't had free sex in over six months, met me at a pub. I was shocked at how easy it was to find someone with personal experience and didn't know exactly what to ask. Thankfully, he wanted to share. He admits that "regular sex" would be a better option, but says it's difficult to meet people in his circles.
Still, "doing it with someone I see a lot … that'd be better I guess. He tells me about his lost love, his ex-wife. His eyes light up when he talks about their honeymoon heat — but they darken again when the conversation turns. He starts ranting about one lady in particular at the "house" he frequents. His emotional attachment to her is clear "she's pretty and really sweet, you'd like her, I swear" and he genuinely thinks she cares about him. What about your safety?
Tim's response is quick, and blunt: He uses protection, but admits, "when I get to that point and I'm there, I'm not worried about safety. When Tim and I part ways, I walk home, confident in my original advice, but saddened for those who can't avoid prostitution. The decision to pay someone for sex not only diminishes the act, I think to myself, but devalues both parties involved. Have a sex question? This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff.
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